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Went into hospital today for a routine scan of my missus for her twin pregnancy.

Unfortunately one baby had died sometime in the last week, so the decision was made to c-section immediately.

So this afternoon I became a father to one beautiful baby boy, but have also lost a son :(

Very confusing :(
 
geposted Thu 18 Dec 08 @ 2:45 pm
Congratulations on being a dad Scott. Sorry about the other one, my old Irish grandfather used to tell me "God only gives us what we can handle. Not one penny more, and not one penny less." It seems God thought you could handle this. So, keep your chin up and enjoy the new life you now have.
 
CONGRATZ ON BIENG A DAD....Keep ur head man...u got a baby dat made but sorry about the other baby..Just keep strong..or how us chicanozzz say "KEEP A FIRME GRIP".....
 
Yeah scott, congrats too n i sorry to hear it about that:(.. anyway have a nice day today n best regards;)
 
SBDJ:

Congratulations on your new baby boy! Condolences also to you and your lady regarding the miscarriage. I almost started out this post with the reverse of those statements, but I didnt, and I think that is the key to dealing with the situation: be more happy that you are a father to a new boy rather than upset about the miscarriage. I know that it is probably easier said than done, especially when your lady is probably very hurt, but what I am trying to say is to be as optimistic as possible. Concentrating solely on your new boy and giving him as much love as possible is perhaps a gift in disguise. I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason even if said reason is not immediately visible. In a medical sense, the baby that miscarried most likely sacrificed its nutrients, etc., so that his brother could live. The gift of life. You have been blessed with the gift of life!

Keep your head up and be as thankful as possible for your new baby boy and your lady.

Go give them both a kiss right now!
 
SBDJ:

Congratulations for the new baby boy. I am not a father myself, but my two sisters have had both miscarriages and then they had their babies, so I feel your sorrow but i do believe you were blessed with that baby boy that is now part of your life. Cherish him and your family, which is the most important things you have.


Mindtwister3d
 
congrats and sorry for the loss thanks for sharing tho. I remember when my mom went to hospital to deliver my sister and came home alone without a baby
 
That there's a nice Christmas Present SBDJ.

Enjoy them all.
 


the sights and sounds of triumphant affirmation .........hope this is comforting
 
congrats scott.first thing is look after what youve been blessed with a beautifull son and a loving mother.lets just say the three of you now have an angel on your shoulder.out of bad fortune like this comes good health and happiness i should have had another two sisters but my bro and sis mean the world to me
 
Thanks guys, still in hospital at the moment, I'm going to spend the night here with the missus and the mother-in-law...

I'm happy for the little boy I have, hopefully going to get my missus up to see her if they can stop her from bleeding for long enough, that should make the world of difference to her I reckon.

Was suprised, premature twin, 4lb 10.5oz...
 
hey scott my last son (i have four) was the same as your new boy and believe me the small babies come on the best he is as mad as hell ha.you both have an early present from samta really enjoy it.this is the time for family so stay big for the missus and let yours out on here with your friends mate
 
My first daughter was 10 weeks early and 3.0 lbs .......that was in 1988 ..... it was scary at first , but she turned out perfect

I learned then not to beat yourself up about things you can't control ..... a lot to be concerned about , and a lot to be thankful for ....

it was kinda confusing
 

congrats on being a father...

sorry to hear about the twin, but embrace the one God gave you... he'll grow up to be a great person i bet... :)
 
one of a parents worst nightmares balanced by a parents best joy. it's always that worry in the back of our heads - the big "what if". and i'm doing that right now. just found out we're having another boy ourselves.

congratulations and condolences at the same time.
 
Congratulations Scott on your new baby boy, so sad to hear of your loss,

Paul.
 
Thats the hardest part - it's great having the baby boy, he's gorgeous and we're very happy to have him. But dealing with the death of a son is hard too, and we've already been asked about registering the death, post-mortem and funeral arrangements.
 
absolutely gorgeous baby Scott, have you chosen a name yet?
 
HELLO SBDJ JR.!!!!! I hope I didn't wake him up...sorry...
 
nobody type to loud, can't you see he's asleep...
 
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